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Who am I

Updated: Jan 25, 2022

Who am I? The truth was I never stopped to ask myself the question, Who am I? I had always taken great satisfaction and pleasure in the many labels that I had worn.

This was me for so many years.. it would go something like this:

I am Kashaun

I am daughter to my parents

I am the third eldest sibling among 7 children

I am highly educated

I am a wife

I am a mother

I am a homeowner

I am a leader in my career

All of these labels worked great because I felt they served me in some way. I took pride in wearing each of them because I felt they were a privilege that I had earned.

Well in 2016, when I was handed two more labels, Widow and Single Mother! Neither of them were ones that I wanted or felt applied to me.

I got angry

I got frustrated

I was sad

I was depressed

I didn’t want to be a widow, but I am…

I didn’t want to be a single mother, but I am…

Life isn’t fair I thought. I don’t deserve this!

What is the truth? I was right.

Life isn’t fair and I don’t deserve this...

At this point, when I was asked the question, who am I?

I was in an identity crisis....

I didn't like my labels and I didn't identity with them! THEY WERE NOT ME!!!

But, I placed my identity behind the labels and who am I now that I am wearing labels that I don't want!

The reality for us all as we are going through the process of grief and loss is we find ourselves in an identity crisis.

You are no longer a spouse, and you are not the same person you were before you got married. This is a painful realization!!!

You may feel lost, confused, and withdrawn because your sense of belonging has eluded you.

So, who are you? Deep inside without tying your identity to a marital status, career role, or family role WHO ARE YOU? WHO DO YOU WANT TO BE?

As you reflect, begin to ask yourself…

What do I like?

What makes me unique?

What makes me special?

Who do I want to be now?

Let’s redefine who we are! Let’s embrace our uniqueness!

I’ll Start:

I am Kashaun,

I am extremely blessed

I have a great sense of humor

I am someone that enjoys solitude

I am loving of myself and others that surround me

I am passionate about learning

I am dedicated

I am overbearing

And I love me ALL of me

Who are you?

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